Dating check list
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Since I’m not much of a dater, I don’t usually go out with a guy unless I really see potential. There’s a few things (like two dozen) that I always have at the forefront of my mind, but most of it is just like a completely casual, non-emotional stunting, mental pro-con list. Just the men who think that’s possible for the rest of us. I think they may be shorter lists and lists change upon circumstances (i.e. I would hope to be qualified similar to how I qualify men. Lisa: Absolutely – and I’m sure like ours, their lists have evolved as they’ve gotten older.
Numero uno: If you send me a d**k pic, it’s getting posted on the internet along with your number. My friend Jameson is always the voice of reason when I’m out in da’ clubs (I hate myself), and keeps it super real and is usually like, “Bro, that dude only kind of looks like he might have a little meth in his eye. If they haven’t, they’re probably not someone you’d want to be with anyhow. Their lists are created by their penises, and women create our list with our hearts. In fact, I think men have a variety of lists for different circumstances.
I will say, these 5 were not on the original list, but consider critical at this stage in my life. My immediate thought is that it’s hindering, however I think it is helping me get to the ‘right one’ without wasting time, energy, feelings, with the ‘wrong ones’. I have 5 values that I look for in a man: where his faith at, if he has emotional intelligence, how communicative he is, and if he’s nurturing and grateful.
For example, I’ll see an investment banker and automatically assume he’s a total douchelord based on this bit of information. I’ve never actually taken the time to sit down and write a list.I do feel that this criteria is 100% helping me, rather than hindering me.When you get clear on what you want, you hold yourself more accountable and are less likely to be influenced to deviate from it.My longest relationships were with people who met the value-based criteria. I don’t have any “out of the ordinary” requirements, but I do know what I do and don’t want in a relationship.The shortest and/or most confusing relationships were with those that gave me butterflies and were good kissers. I do have some things that are important to me that I don’t want to waiver on, but I don’t have an actual “list” like I did when I was younger. Because my requirements stop me from going out with drug dealers or Packers fans. I would say my list has most likely grown as I’ve gotten older.